" why not ", " children" and Mr Good Enough...

This is interesting: the group with the highest marriage rate is not the company that I worked in, but my classmates in Warsaw University. Actually, none of my friends in the company married, and the whole GC Babycare planning team, with age from 23 to 34 year old, used to be with all singles while I was there. Yet now, lots of my classmates, generally 2 or 3 years younger than me, dazzled me from time to time with the metal on their ring fingers: you see, my " ring finger" is only a finger yet, but theirs definitely have more!
So the conversation also changed: they talk in the way " my husband/wife..." instead of my other friens' " I/my boy(girl)friend..." and I heard the most time ever about plans " we are going to..."...yes, now everything is " WE" for them. Hum...arr...wow...I was thinking, how weird it would be if I was called some " Mrs". Pawel said he didn't feel the difference before and after the marrige, how could?
So when this conversation happened, I felt much different:
my friend is 23 year old, and his wife is 22, they married around 1 year ago. We were talking about going to Vienna stuff.
Friend: I wish to go somewhere too.
me: you could, just pick up an Erasmus programme.
Friend: no, I couldn't. ( showed me his ring finger, and laughing) becauze of this~ she doesn't like travelling.
me: hum :) I am curious, what made you decide to get married?
Friend: ( looking at me surprizingly) WHY NOT? she and me were together and we want to be together.
me: hum...( he answered" why not"..." why not"...why?)
Friend: and I want to have family, I want to have kids. My brother is 24 and he already had his first child. I also want to have children soon...
me: hum...( child...no, children)

Now you can understand: before coming to Poland, all those questions I heard from my other friends were: " should I marry or not?" " should I have a child or not", and now they turned to be " should I have 3 or 4 children?" , and the answer to marrige is " why not" ! Also it is not only with my friends in Economics programme: in the park right besides my house, there are always young couples with 2 or 3 children: one is running, the second is toddling, and third in the baby carriage.
So, did we go too far that we lost sight of certain happiness, that these happiness could be actually reached much easier than we thought ? and though that " marriage" and " family " represent some trivial and unattractive parts of life but at the same time they are aslo the happy and glittering parts of " Real-Life"?
And for some of us, yes, we are talking about " soul mate". ----Serendipity, Love, Passion, these are what we are thinking about, we want to believe there is a " He" somewhere. But this Mr Soulmate either does not exist , or he is exactly right for " soul" rather than for marrige and life: Mr Big still ran away from the wedding after a more than 10 years relationship with Carrie, and what's more, "Can anyone imagine Mr. Big walking around with a Björn?" as Aidan did(as Lori Gottlieb wrote in <> )? Thus the result seems to be of only one kind: either you marry a Mr GOOD ENOUGH in the very begining, or, you spend years and years looking for Mr Soulmate but end with also marry a Mr GOOD ENOUGH, at a time that you feel " I have to get married..."( at thirty or forty something? I don't know, but some do think in this way...)